Comments on: Not-a-Meme #13 – Secrets and Confessions http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/ Just another WordPress.com weblog Fri, 20 Jun 2008 00:58:39 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Alyia Coanda http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-28 Alyia Coanda Wed, 11 Apr 2007 02:53:40 +0000 http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-28 Kieres said: "...I have some wonderful, close friendships. But most of those close RL friends don’t live anywhere near me. It took what felt like a long time and just the right conditions for those friendships to develop..." I understand this all too well. I have good friends where I live, but my dearest are miles away. This leaves me feeling lonely on rainy days when I just want to share my space with someone with whom I have some kind of kinship. Perhaps this is part of the attraction of Second Life. When you can inhabit the same "room" the distances don't seem so great, even if the person on the other side of the chat window is really on the other side of the world. Kieres said:

“…I have some wonderful, close friendships. But most of those close RL friends don’t live anywhere near me. It took what felt like a long time and just the right conditions for those friendships to develop…”

I understand this all too well. I have good friends where I live, but my dearest are miles away. This leaves me feeling lonely on rainy days when I just want to share my space with someone with whom I have some kind of kinship.

Perhaps this is part of the attraction of Second Life. When you can inhabit the same “room” the distances don’t seem so great, even if the person on the other side of the chat window is really on the other side of the world.

]]> By: Coyote http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-26 Coyote Tue, 10 Apr 2007 13:35:42 +0000 http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-26 OK, our next group therapy session will meet at the same time next week... ROFL! OK, our next group therapy session will meet at the same time next week… ROFL!

]]> By: EricAtRandom http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-23 EricAtRandom Mon, 09 Apr 2007 14:58:37 +0000 http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-23 This is an impressive post. It's also, not to be cliche having read the other quotes, one that I'm entirely in sync with. I don't think it's quite the same as a transgender AV, but Marvin is definitely a part of my RL personality that simply comes out in SL -- part of me definitely feels like a paranoid android. Years ago, I was so nervous around people I couldn't even eat around them -- all except my family and life-long friends. I also have a tendency to *appear* outgoing. I can be a little loud at times and draw attention to myself, when actually, any attention I get that I *didn't* ask for terrifies me. So, my "outgoing" nature is just an attempt to maintain control of the attention. I will *never* offer a hug in RL as I'm afraid of the awkward period after a hug-rejection, but I love hugging (as my SL persona has shown). I'm working on this one, btw. Last night was also a rare event for me. I danced solely with Rosa for months. Recently, Sumar and I have been regular dance partners. For me to actually ask 3 or 4 people to dance in one night was a real stretch, and one I'm glad I made. So, despite a little gender confusion, I'm glad your female avatar and I had the dance. :) Consider this an open invitation to her in the future. This is an impressive post. It’s also, not to be cliche having read the other quotes, one that I’m entirely in sync with. I don’t think it’s quite the same as a transgender AV, but Marvin is definitely a part of my RL personality that simply comes out in SL — part of me definitely feels like a paranoid android.

Years ago, I was so nervous around people I couldn’t even eat around them — all except my family and life-long friends. I also have a tendency to *appear* outgoing. I can be a little loud at times and draw attention to myself, when actually, any attention I get that I *didn’t* ask for terrifies me. So, my “outgoing” nature is just an attempt to maintain control of the attention. I will *never* offer a hug in RL as I’m afraid of the awkward period after a hug-rejection, but I love hugging (as my SL persona has shown). I’m working on this one, btw.

Last night was also a rare event for me. I danced solely with Rosa for months. Recently, Sumar and I have been regular dance partners. For me to actually ask 3 or 4 people to dance in one night was a real stretch, and one I’m glad I made. So, despite a little gender confusion, I’m glad your female avatar and I had the dance. :) Consider this an open invitation to her in the future.

]]> By: Vint http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-20 Vint Sun, 08 Apr 2007 21:54:45 +0000 http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-20 I think people tend to be more self-protective once they cross out from school into the “real world,” too. => I don't think that has anything to do with school or no school anymore. I so long to get that non-self-protecting 'naivety' back, sometimes. :/ I think people tend to be more self-protective once they cross out from school into the “real world,” too. => I don’t think that has anything to do with school or no school anymore. I so long to get that non-self-protecting ‘naivety’ back, sometimes. :/

]]> By: Coyote http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-18 Coyote Sun, 08 Apr 2007 20:17:50 +0000 http://kierestzara.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/not-a-meme-13-secrets-and-confessions/#comment-18 I know exactly what you mean... both lives. In RL I was finally driven out of a social anxiety funk, to a degree, by attempts to put a shopping center across from my house. I <I>had</I> to get involved with the local community, politics and zoning power brokers. And as you note, now that I know the players, I can bring myself to speak up in their meetings (for all the good it does!). Likewise, in SL: reluctance to offer SL-friendship, or even ask for a dance, for that matter. But SL is a good training ground for social anxiety issues :-). I know exactly what you mean… both lives. In RL I was finally driven out of a social anxiety funk, to a degree, by attempts to put a shopping center across from my house. I had to get involved with the local community, politics and zoning power brokers. And as you note, now that I know the players, I can bring myself to speak up in their meetings (for all the good it does!). Likewise, in SL: reluctance to offer SL-friendship, or even ask for a dance, for that matter. But SL is a good training ground for social anxiety issues :-) .

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